Practising Mindfulness

Category: Meditation & Mindfulness

  • Escaping the Influence of Illness

    I’ve bolted to my little hideaway 

    Sometimes solitude is the only answer. When I feel weighed down by the behaviour of others, I realise there’s no point in becoming angry, in an attempt to change them. Inconsiderate and manipulative behaviour, brought on by what is seen as the power of illness, is minimised when alone. Total solitude would mean I simply can’t be influenced by illness.

    It seems we all have something wrong

    We all have our problems don’t we? And yet, how would life be if we felt utterly content, well, and satiated? Would we wonder at this strange feeling of contentment and seek out a problem to spoil it all? I suppose we can feel content only for this to be spoiled by someone else, can we not?.

    Time away to enjoy solitude and escape the influence of illness

    Interestingly enough, if I searched for them, I could claim to have lots of problems, but what would be the point if in solitude? To revel in self-pity for no real reason? You see, when alone, there is no value to illness, it has no power and influence over others. I’m unable to control their movements and consume their time through illness when alone. My illness has no power, no purpose. I’m tired of the influence of illness.

    In addition to helping people understand their illness, my intention is to work with the well, teaching them how to build on this, through mindfulness.

    We must stop giving illness power – be well – learning how to spend time in total solitude, will help us all, gain the necessary understanding.

  • Vaccines for the Body Awareness for the Mind

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    I wonder about the effectiveness of meditation as much as I wonder about the effectiveness of vaccines

    When I first sat down to write this piece I began to think about how effective meditation would have been for me some years ago. Whilst in the middle of being terrified and lost would meditation have been of any value to me? Would it have even been possible?

    In answer to those questions, I think without it being explained to me, in clear terms, what the effects and consequences of improved awareness are, my experience of meditation would have been very brief. However, if, by first understanding exactly why my life was such a disaster (to be made aware of all the consequences to loneliness and a better exploration of my delusional beliefs) meditation might have saved me a lot of time and suffering.

    When we’re grasping for the next thing – be this a drink or some other distraction – to gain control, we need to see the underlying cause

    It was last night that I found myself thinking about isolation. How, as a child, if my behavior was disruptive, I would be punished through being sent into isolation in my bedroom. I hated this, I remember feeling very troubled when excluded from the rest of the family. I would creep to the top of the stairs, which were open-plan, so I could see what was going on, only to be spotted by one of my sisters and then told to get back to my room.

    I know now, that the reason being in my bedroom alone was so difficult, was because it compounded my sense of loneliness. When in company my loneliness was far less apparent. The effect and consequences to this, in adulthood, was to spend time drunk (to feel comfortable around people) in pubs to make my loneliness less apparent. A further consequence was my need for constant stimulation and the avoidance of quiet time alone.

    What I’ve since needed, in order to stop grasping for something to ease the pain of loneliness, is an understanding of what lies at its root. If we neither know or like ourselves, loneliness is the result. We will always seek ways to ease this pain.

    With this knowledge, meditation, that leads to improved everyday mindfulness, helps me defend my mind against the many predators and players in life, and also remain vigilant to the importance of self-awareness

    The long and the short of it is, improved awareness, has great value provided we understand the root to our dysfunctionality. If you are currently experiencing a high degree of instability, working through this, with a mental health professional, is recommended. And a must before Meditation to Mindfulness Workshop attendance.

    Philip Whittingham is currently only able to offer Analytical Hypnotherapy Services through home visits in the South West of England.

  • A Celebration of Consciousness

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    A dumbing down of consciousness is to be locked into routine and the habit of fantasising about the future. A celebration of consciousness is to be learning, growing, changing and developing

    It’s estimated that consciousness developed about 5 million years ago. Imagine how it must of been for the babies of great apes, with a more fully developed cortex, to begin experiencing self-awareness. And consider how, some 5 million years later, we’ve come to utilise and better understand our consciousness.

    If we’re to continue celebrating consciousness, we must recognise the importance of growth, change and development

    If we search for it every positive has its opposite. And of course consciousness brings along with it the downsides of sentience. Along with the the joys of life we’re also aware of the sufferings. Physical and emotional pain is something we seek to avoid, and many of the ways we do this, has the unfortunate side effect of blunting our consciousness.

    We must be guarded against the habit of avoidance because as we do this, the dumbing down of our consciousness, means we’re less aware of the opposites of what we’re choosing to avoid

    Keeping the mind present through the technique of mindfulness does mean we become increasingly aware of the sharper edges to life, however, these things become less sharp through our increased awareness of the wonders in life. It’s a nonsense to dumb down everything – either through drugs, fantasy or routine – in an attempt to avoid the inevitable pains of life. When fully experiencing the phenomenon of consciousness we fully experience all that life brings. Mindfully celebrate your consciousness. Learn to meditate.

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  • The Useful Mindset

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    Important as breakfast

    If you’re anything like me you’ll have a tendency to become easily distracted. You can become sidetracked by a mind that craves the chaos of a wayward ego. The ego loves to have its own way and will do all it can to bring itself to the fore. This is why placing daily meditation at the very top of your priorities is essential.

    Daily meditation is the time we need to bring the ego under control

    We must become the master of the ego. There is nothing more to this than simply being aware of its influence. Once we’re aware we have control, simple. It’s when we allow ourselves to run on autopilot that problems arise. Think about how distracted you can become when you miss breakfast. Stop allowing your ego to distract you into chaos. Practice daily.

    Here’s what’s covered on our Mediation to Mindfulness Workshop

  • The Calmest of Minds

    Nirvana can be understood

    I want you to imagine a state of mind that sits between thoughts. Imagine a moment where time has stopped. Imagine a moment where there is simply no desire to be doing anything other than what is currently happening. There is a sense of stillness.

    The silence is the result of there being no friction, no resistance. Total absorption in the present moment

    It involves an understanding of what you’ve been seeking all your life. You’ve been seeking this sense of calm but looking in the wrong direction. You’ve been seeking answers and solutions instead of acknowledging what your mind has been showing you for years. It is already what you are; where you are. Let go and allow your mind to show you now.

    Ask yourself what your mind has been showing you that is beyond craving, desire, needs or wants

    Don’t be fooled into thinking this is complicated. In fact it’s the simplicity that can catch us out. There are layers of deceit and lies that we must cut through to get to the truth. It’s all the clutter associated with the human condition. The lust for power. The need for control. It involves none of these things. What it does involve is the understanding that the human condition is exactly that: a condition. A state of conditioning. At the centre of our being there is a place devoid of conditioning. Devoid of the human condition of seeking power and control. Let these things go and nirvana will be within your reach.

  • The Power of Awareness

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    How remarkable it is that we’re able to think about our own thinking

    What an extraordinary talent we have in being able to objectively observe our own thoughts. That is of course providing we choose to. If we’re too integrated; intertwined with our thoughts, we might struggle to step away from them, long enough to see them as separate from ourselves. This is where meditation comes to the fore.

    With practice meditation enables us to slow down and become aware

    That’s right, as we seek to focus our attention on a physical function of the body (breathing for example) we can become aware of our thoughts. We expand on this by then beginning to question their nature. More than anything, we must ask ourselves if our thoughts have any positive, and productive value. Are our thoughts of a critical, judgmental nature, only there to compound the negatives we believe about ourselves, or are they constructive and valuable? The simple process of observing these thoughts, and asking if they’re of any real value to our lives, is an example of the power of awareness.

    As we become increasingly aware of our thoughts, building the ability to detach ourselves from them, we raise awareness and take control

    So often our defensive ego seeks to ward off attacks from those who might be less aware than ourselves. The negative, patronising comment or post-it note a colleague leaves for our attention, becomes a little mind-worm. We might believe ourselves to be quite important with a valuable contribution to make and all we get is attacked. If we are to remain healthy and well adjusted it is our ego we must bring under control.

    Our ego has no concern for our mental health it is simply the custodian of our beliefs and must defend them to the death

    One of the most powerful points you must take from this post today is, how the ego knows no difference between those beliefs that lift us, and help us move forward in life, and those that simply lock us into circular, negative thinking. All is not lost though, you’ve been made aware of how meditation enables you to step away from your thoughts – raising your awareness to them – so you may cease their destructive influence. In this way, you are actively selecting those ego-driven thoughts that are positive, and rejecting those that have no real value. You are actively choosing thoughts that improve and maintain a good quality of life. 

    Mindfulness is the product of meditation and it is our improved awareness that will keep tabs on destructive thinking from the ego 

    So when it comes down to it the power of awareness is the power to live well. The power to actively choose happiness over worry, stress and negativity, comes from improved awareness of thoughts and their nature. We can choose to either get upset and become defensive over the behaviour of others, or we can choose calm as we see the real driver of our emotions, as us. Remember, the ego is the custodian of beliefs and many of our thoughts are simply there as a means to compound and maintain them. This is the job of the ego no matter how beneficial or destructive these beliefs are. It is our job to raise our awareness so we may bring the ego under our control. When we practice this kind of mindfulness, every moment of our lives, amazing begins to happen. We begin to live well under the terms of the beliefs we choose to see value in. 

    Live well, learn to meditate. 

  • How to Live Each Day as if it Were Your Last

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    I’ve never really understood what it means to live each day as if it were your last – until meditating on it that is

    In a recent post I mentioned my partners brother and his illness. The news has not improved only to become ever more shocking. The hospital have now realised that his liver cancer is very aggressive and, after having discussed the options with the patient, it’s been decided he should return home. A hospice is to be arranged in order for him to live out the time he has left in relative comfort.

    When we experience this sort of thing a whole manner of thoughts crowd in. We begin to experience sadness at the impending loss. We think about all the consequences to losing someone we love. It is of course all the more painful when the person who is dying isn’t particularly old. We consider our own age and feel threatened and fearful about become so ill ourselves. We imagine the life they’re missing out on and we imagine our lives going on without their presence. We experience profound sadness. Our hearts break.

    If possible, the kind of conversation we can have, with all concerned, relates to living each day as if it were the last

    Yes, it’s only after meditating on this saying, has it started to make better sense. When I pondered on it thoughts concerning my recent activities came to mind. I’ve recently bought a motorcycle and after taking off the fairings some things have come to light. The machine was described as being in beautiful condition but, as if often the case, the previous owner made a false claim. He wasn’t lying, I believe he was simply ignorant, to the problems. Ignorant because he’d never dismantled it.

    Whenever I buy a used motorcycle I have a habit of taking it apart. I do this in order to ensure it’s properly serviced and isn’t likely to let me down. As you will understand properly maintaining a motorcycle is important because your life might depend on it. Anyway, my point is, fixing or simply maintaining motorcycles, is something I’ve been doing most of my adult life. So, in effect, everything I do, in terms of motorcycle maintenance, is only an expansion on something I’ve done before. I’m repeating myself. Most of what we do is a repeat of something we’ve either witnessed or done ourselves. Our future activities are an expansion of these things. This is why we’re so adept at forgetting the past; both the pain and pleasure. If everything we did each day was completely new and unfamiliar life would be intolerable.

    And so to get right to the point, if our lives are to be cut short, it becomes particularly painful if we cast our minds into an imaginary future

    When you’re in the present there is no such thing as the future. In order to live each day as if it were our last all we need do is remain present. To feel disappointment and sadness about an imagined future (where we’re repeating all we’ve done before) is nonsensical. There’s no puzzle on how to live each day as if it were your last, because if you’re present, no matter what it is you’re doing, it will be the last time you ever do it.

    Take control of your mind – and by extension your life – by learning how to meditate.

  • From Gamma to Theta (Meditation & Hypnosis)

    You might wonder if there is any value in understanding the difference between brain wave frequencies. Of course there is value in knowing this, knowledge awards us power! And understanding that brain waves are something we can assert control over, is power, within itself.

    Greater Control Over Your Mind Equals Improved Control Over Your Life

    Waves and their frequencies are measured in Hertz (Hz) and our brains (on average) have wave frequencies of between 0.5 Hz and 100 Hz. It follows a useful logic, that the slower the frequency, the more relaxed we are. From lowest to highest frequencies they are ordered in this way:

    • Delta Waves – Occur during sleep
    • Theta Waves – Occur during deep trance
    • Alpha Waves – Occur in light trance
    • Beta Waves – Occur whilst awake
    • Gamma Waves – Occur during meditation and higher cognitive reasoning

    So, Gamma, the highest wave frequency, is associated with higher cognitive function, and has been found during meditation. This, in itself is interesting, as it does confirm our findings: 

    • Meditation, is of great value, if improved logical reasoning, cognitive function and stress management, (awareness and attention focus) are your goals. In fact, present, focused and alert, best describes the mind state meditation can achieve. 

    Alpha and Theta waves are associated with Hypnosis (Alpha, light trance and Theta, deep). Again, interesting, because it also confirms our findings: 

    • Light to deep levels of Hypnotic Trance (operator or self induced) are most beneficial for developing creativeness, imagination, relaxation, the effective seating of suggestion/autosuggestion, and easing deeper psychological conflict.

    Finally Beta is associated with being fully awake and Delta with fast asleep.

  • Beautifully Mindful

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    The first thing to be aware of is that living a beautiful life takes effort and constant monitoring

    I currently live in a small but expanding town on the south coast of England called Dartmouth. It’s fairly well known for its connections to the British Navy and the fact it’s situated alongside the mouth of the river Dart. A great place, and due to this has many visitors, in particular, during the summer months. During this time it can feel a little claustrophobic.

    Many people keep their boats on the river and in addition to this there are a lot of wealthy second home owners who also visit in the summertime. An extreme example of this population explosion occurs in a town a little further along the coast called Salcombe. During the winter the population of this town is around two thousand and during the summer months this can increase to as much as twenty two thousand. Seasonal change is something the people of Devon have become accustomed to. As a means of escaping the summer occupation of Dartmouth, my partner and I keep a little caravan in a much quieter part of Devon, that isn’t quite so seasonally affected.

    Now as I’m sure you can imagine, many of the business’s in the south west of England are dependent on the tourist industry. For example, there’s a little business, recently established alongside the river Dart, that teaches people how to paddleboard. There is some unfortunate news in that they’ve recently had most of their boards and paddles stolen. Even so, I’ve no doubt they’re insured and will soon be back in business teaching people how to have fun on the river very soon. There is a point to all of this that I’ll come back to. In the meantime consider this statement:

    I care about me more than I care about anybody else

    No matter how idyllic or stress-free the setting, if the mind isn’t absolutely present, this environment will never be fully experienced or appreciated. In this regard, at some point during our lives, we will all face challenges and distractions from our plans. On some level we all plan to have a nice time and enjoy our lives as much as possible. Even so, it’s interesting how many of us aren’t able to appreciate, and sometimes even recognise, when we’ve reached one of the markers we’ve set ourselves. A prime example of this would be to overly involve ourselves with the troubles of others.

    Take the stolen paddleboards. On hearing the news we might become saddened or angered and we might (as was the case) exaggerate the facts. One local person took it on themselves to spread the gossip that the paddleboard thieves – rather than stealing everything – had vindictively broken the paddles. This wasn’t true and is example of someone becoming overly involved with the distress of others and then needing to spread this negativity. If we want a comfortable, stress-free existence, we must constantly monitor and be aware of our thoughts and behaviour. We must also monitor to what extent we allow the thoughts and behaviours of others to affect us.

    Another example concerns the inability to distance ourselves from the troubles of family members. We have ties to family that place demands on our time and energy. Once family members have reached adulthood it is expected that they’re then able to take full responsibility for themselves. There are times when this can’t be the case (perhaps due to unforeseen illness) and so family members must step in to help. Even so, through having awareness and control over our minds, we’re able to separate, compartmentalize and prioritise ourselves.

    You must always place yourself as the priority and be aware of how easily you can be distracted

    Remember: no matter how beautiful the setting and the life, if you’re not fully engaged with this – in the moment – it will all be for nothing. Take control of your mind, through learning how to successfully meditate, so that you may improve everyday mindfulness.

    When it comes to the troubles of other this is an occasion when it is of great value to cast the mind forward to a time when the troubles are over. No matter the problem it will always come to an end. Everything has an ending. In predicting the future we’re also able to see how things always average out and in the end.

    So we can see the value in keeping the mind present and we can also see how casting the mind forward also has value. My partner and I understand how claustrophobic Dartmouth can get in the summer and we compensate for this through planning our little escapes. Without occasionally thinking ahead this wouldn’t be possible. When we’re at our caravan our minds must be present and enjoying what we’ve created there. And the same applies when we’re in Dartmouth.

    Engaged in the present moment we feel everything that is occurring now. If in this moment things are not as we want them, there is a tendency to need escape. It’s a fabulous survival strategy. However, for us to live fully, we must be prepared to experience all of the aspects presented to us. If we lazily allow our minds to constantly wander off we will often delay making necessary changes.

    In contrast, if we have reached a point in our lives where it feels like plans are coming together, we can easily be distracted by the troubles of others. We can be driven by the negative forces of guilt. Once again if we’re allowing our minds to wander off we can forget that everyone has a responsibility to themselves. We all have the ability to plan and care for ourselves within these plans. If others have failed to do this, failed at getting their insurance in order, we must be aware that there is no value in sharing the discomfort they might experience as a result. There is no value in you experiencing it with them. Others must be left to wonder how you mange to remain present and happy.

  • This Extraordinary Moment

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    Human history is full of extraordinary moments

    Even though this is true, when we bring things down to a personal level, it really is only this present moment now that matters. Of course the important proviso is, that you’re actually fully aware, and immersed in this moment now.

    For me, being fully in the moment, involves an awareness of just how weird and wonderful everything is. I imagine myself feeling similar to how a child must feel when viewing everything for the first time. There is an added appreciation of this due to my awareness of just how much I don’t know or can come close to understanding. This only makes the moment even more fascinating.

    All in all, human drama, pales into insignificance, when we glance at the bigger picture

    We mustn’t become self-absorbed as a result of being present. There is the tendency to be this way during meditation. In fact, on reading a lot of the literature surrounding the subject, we can be misled into thinking that meditation is all about the self. Initially, it might start off this way, and yet in time we must gain an awareness, through our meditation, of our place in the world. Through this, we can gain a sense of how small and insignificant we are, and there is value in this.

    The value, in seeing our insignificance, comes from understanding proportion

    If we become overly absorbed with our own lives and problems we can easily make the mistake of losing our sense of proportion. Fear of death or illness is a prime example. Stepping outside of ourselves, we see how the bigger picture can help us to appreciate, that there really is, only one moment we can live in. It’s a bit like the wealthy man with all his money, possessions, and places he can be. He can only ever be in one place at a time. The more we grasp, and want to claim for ourselves, outside of this one moment, the less we’re actually alive. The more we have the more distracted the mind is from appreciating our insignificance. Never see insignificant as a negative. When we are insignificant so are our problems.

    Take a moment to wonder at what exists outside and then marvel at the very fact you have an awareness of this

    It may seem a very strange thing to assert, that within the grand scheme of things, you are no more then a spec of dust. None of us. Not even the wealthy and powerful. I believe true power comes from an awareness of this. There is true power in knowing that you know nothing and there is true power in understanding your insignificance.

    I would much rather this than live the life of a dreamer seeking the illusion of recognition or significance. But then again, if none of us had dreamt of something different, would we have ever reduced the suffering we experienced in the past? An interesting question is it not? Perhaps, through understanding our individual insignificance, we could dream of a better future for all.