Practising Mindfulness

Category: World Affairs

  • Remove the cancer of negativity

    Negativity
    Think about dreams. Think about their symbolic nature. More than symbolic, we could even go as far as saying our dreams, are metaphorical

    Dreams are the language of the unconscious. Taking this one step further, what other methods of communication does the unconscious utilise? Our unintentional, or unconscious behaviour, is of course a form of communication to others. So what about the unconscious communication our mind uses, along with dreams, to speak directly to our consciousness? It’s important to consider the symbolic, metaphorical nature, of unconscious communication.

    Gilbert Ryle condescendingly referred to René Descartes‘ concept of mind-body dualism as: “The Ghost In The Machine.” It’s also certainly clear to me, no duality exists between body and mind, hence the term ‘bodymind’ found elsewhere, in this blog. As such, when we look closely at this inseparable and complex link, we can safely say, the unconscious communicates in any way it possibly can.

    When we see dis-ease as a clear communication from the bodymind, we’re on the right track to taking full control, of our lives. What do you imagine – with everything said so far – is the bodymind looking to communicate, through the dis-ease of cancer? What metaphorical meaning can we attribute to a cell that won’t die; a cell that refuses to stop replicating itself? Can we consider this cells refusal to die, a metaphor, for not letting go? You bet we can.

    It’s important we understand the necessity in letting go of negativity. Repetitive, negative thoughts and memories, are the product of a mind that refuses to let go. We must understand the message our bodymind sends us. Cancer is a clear message: Let go of the negatives from the past

    Some might say forgiveness is the tool needed for this letting go. I say forget forgiveness, we now have better tools, at our disposal. When we truly let go of the past, forgiveness becomes irrelevant. When we’re able to fully and completely move on, through dropping the past – as you’d drop a piece of rotten wood – we free ourselves of a negative future. That’s right, I repeat: We free ourselves of a negative future.

    Remove the cancer of negativity
    New Growth once we remove the cancer of negativity

    I can teach you how to use tools that utterly dispose of the self-destructive negatives from your past. Learn more here.

  • Defend Yourself or Become a Victim

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    If you don’t have the means to defend yourself you will fall to a greater power

    This might sound a little harsh however it’s how the system works. We only need consider the universe we live in to understand this. It’s violent in places. As we’ve all recently experienced, if we’ve not built up a defence against an attacker, it will beat us. Because we understand this we’ve created vaccines and antibiotics. In terms of recent developments, and on a much larger scale, we have nuclear defence. This isn’t necessarily defence enough against a madman yet it might give such an individual pause for thought. This pause might give us time to strike.

    In a fist fight it’s always wise to get the first punch in, especially when fighting a bully. If you don’t you’ll get a black eye or worse

    History is no doubt going to show us the folly of our hesitancy. Removing the risk of viruses and diseases, prevention in other words, will always be favourable to fighting it once established. Of course it’s easy for me, sitting here behind a computer being the voice of reason, yet I feel acknowledging reality, helps us to gain the strength to accept where we’re going wrong. It’s a mistake to assume that a dictator, virus or disease, has any compassion or concerns for anything other than itself. Will we ever learn?

  • Mindful Resilience

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    Resilience is helped by optimistic, forward thinking, and our mindful awareness

    Consciousness brings with it the awareness of the often harrowing aspects of life on earth. In contrast to this, I woke this morning, thinking about how a new day was another golden opportunity to eat cake. Even if I don’t eat cake today just thinking about it can be enough. And it’s this kind of humour and simplistic attitude to life that can get us through.

    In order to relay this to you I must of course be aware of my thoughts

    Whilst meditating this morning my mind drifted to uncomfortable thoughts. The thoughts weren’t even about an experience I’d had but concerned those of someone else. Even so, I felt sad and troubled by them, and this goes to show just how powerful our thoughts can be. It’s the awareness of this that’s important, as it awards us the understanding of how we’re able to make improvements to our lives, simply through how we think.

    Remembering the past is important as it gives us opportunity to understand ourselves

    We are the sum total of our beliefs. Our beliefs are formed from everything felt, seen, heard and experienced by us during our lives. In particular our early life. And it doesn’t take much to realise that not all of them are going to be useful and beneficial. As such, reviewing the past, to understand how our beliefs were formed and how they continue to influence us, holds great power. This remembering and evaluating enables us to question and change ourselves into who we want to be. We can develop beyond our beliefs and how they’ve previously led us. We can also develop greater acceptance and love of who we are.

    Bringing the mind predominantly back into the present assists us in our resilience

    It’s how we cope isn’t it? Getting on with living, with our minds engaged in the system, is what it’s all about. The pleasures and the pains of life are its very purpose. The purpose of life is life itself, so let’s get on with it, constantly reminding ourselves of how to be mindfully resilient, enjoying the occasional slice of cake.

  • Here and Gone

    Death can be such a shock. It can be hard to accept that a person is no longer here

    This is, of course, especially the case if we were close to the person who has died. How can it be that someone simply ceases to exist, that they’ve gone, and we will never again experience their presence? It can seem unbelievable and so hard to accept. There is an empty space there now that can never be filled.

    Take a moment to contemplate the word gone and how it makes you feel

    It’s the finality of the word, is it not? It’s the finality of death. How can it be that death is so final? Why do we struggle so much with this ending of life? They’re such extreme opposites, are they not? Alive/Dead. Aware/Unaware.

    It’s said that the main reason for our suffering in life is our attachment to impermanent things. And we humans are most certainly impermanent. Our awareness of this goes some way to explain our need to leave something of ourselves behind after we’ve gone. Be this our DNA or a statue to mark our achievements whilst we were alive. This is important to most, but not all.

    Professor Brian Cox recently commented on how he always smiles when thinking about the eventual death of the universe and the nonsense of our attempts to immortalize people with things like statues or history books.

    When our attachment to the impermanent fades we begin to accept the absolute necessity of endings

    Why is it necessary, and how do we lose our attachment? Whether we like it or not, nature dictates the need for opposites. It’s deeply enshrined within the laws under which the universe operates. There is on, and there is off. When we are alive, the light is switched on, and when we die, it is off. We could say: the light that burns twice as bright burns for half as long, and yet, this is not always the case.

    A long life is never certain. I believe we can sometimes influence the odds slightly, but that’s about all. Ultimately, if we stay attached to the life that was, we will struggle to accept someone’s passing. If we create an imagined future of what the dead could have achieved and attach ourselves to this, we will struggle. An imagined future is an illusion. They lived, and we must find a way to be thankful for that.

    You may choose to believe that the light can be turned on again in some other place or form or time

    Does this belief have value? I feel that it can be very comforting to believe that our loved ones go on in some way after their death. They have a soul that has permanence.

    It has been noted that when we look deeply at matter, what we see is that it mainly contains information. I wonder if it’s useful to believe that information has permanence and that even after the death of this universe, the information it contains will continue to exist in some form or another. It’s hard to believe that it will all be lost forever, is it not?

    In memory of Pete Cawthorne 1963 – 2021

  • Mindful Acceptance

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    Paradoxically, it’s so often the case, that our emotional ills are the result of wanting to alter a mood or feeling. We might feel down and sad – or we might be at a loss to pin any kind of description on how we feel – yet what we do know is, we’d rather feel different. We want to feel happy, calm and at ease with ourselves, of course we do. However, the more we want to change our mood, the more it seems to persist. In fact, our discomfort only raises our awareness of just how miserable we feel. 

    We all know the most common and easy path to changing how we feel, yet food, alcohol or whatever our particular poison, will never be the wholesome solution 

    There’s no doubt that opening a bottle of wine has become one of the accepted solutions. I’ve certainly been in that place, and only stopped when the excess acid in my stomach started to feel like a knife wound. For me, choices became limited. I knew my lifestyle was harming me. As with the majority, my reasons for drinking, were related to powerlessness. I felt powerless to change, not only in how I felt, but also with the situation I’d found myself in.

    It may seem odd to state that alcohol awards us power, yet this is certainly how it feels at the time. Alcohol alters our consciousness, emboldens us, and helps us feel more confident; reducing our inhibitions. Get too far into that bottle of wine though (or the second or third), and rationality starts to go out the window. Our consciousness becomes so distorted we begin to lose our critical faculties. Never a good place to be. 

    Let’s compare this to a crisp winter’s morning. In the cold light of day we say: “never again” we understand the illusion

    We can easily understand why we might eat and drink to excess. After all, who wants to feel miserable? We go with the flow and what becomes the accepted norm is simply that: the accepted norm. The wholesome answer is very unlike the accepted norm, and as such, feels like a challenge. And indeed it is, yet who said this was going to be easy? If that’s what you’re being told, you’re being lied to. 

    As long as we need to be like everyone else the swim upriver will be hard. It’s only when we move into the quieter, calmer waters of solace, do we accept

    If we’re going to learn how to feel happier, with less external stimuli, there is a certain mindset we must adopt. When we know how to meditate daily, there comes a point, when we begin to recognise the power of acceptance. 

    Our moods are there for good reason 

    Feeling unhappy may well be the minds attempt to get us to stop. At times the mind needs reflection. The shifts in mood we experience are there for good reason and we must acknowledge this. Seeking to change ourselves through the accepted norms only adds to our burden. Whereas a brief period of reflection, can lead us to an acceptance that whatever it is we’re feeling, it’s okay to feel it. You’re okay. Recognise the illusions that have become the accepted norms.

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  • Truth, Lies and Whether it Actually Matters

    Now I can only believe it if I see it with my own two eyes, and even then it will only be my truth, and no one else’s

    I made a mistake this morning, I decided to read the news. I allowed my brain to be infected by the nonsense and I also allowed it to upset me. It was for my partner to make me aware of my horrible negativity. Once again my downcast-destructive side came to the fore and it was driven by the media. Not truth, you understand, but the media. And it really is the case that you cannot believe a word they say. In this respect there is no point in reading it. Their desperate need for my attention creates their need to fantasise. Propaganda and nonsense.

    Again and again I make the mistake of allowing my attention to wander off to the places where truth and lies intermingle. And now I’m in a state of constant confusion and unbelieving

    Because of this I’m now asking if truth or lies actually matter. Can we really ever distinguish between the two? I feel the reality is, truth can only ever be something that occurs within the mind, of the believer. All truth is subjective. We must believe it before it becomes true and even then it is only a belief. It is only our belief. Just because we believe something doesn’t mean it’s true for anybody else. Often it can prove to be completely the opposite. Do you believe, for example, that sexual abuse of our children is at epidemic proportions? Do you believe that there are millions of podophiles amongst us?

    I suppose it matters that we make children aware of the dangers. Whether we want to believe it or not there is a dark side to human nature. Evidence speaks the truth. A child has no hope of protecting himself or herself if there’s no awareness of the dangers. And yet this doesn’t mean that we have to read about it every day. It doesn’t mean we must fix our attention on this every day. And we must accept all the darkness that’s possible, however unpalatable, we might find it.

    I find myself not wanting to believe the despicable nature of my fellow human beings, but I must be cautious of what dangers, there are in denial.

    If I choose to ignore the unpleasant what will that make me? Happy, or just as ignorant and innocent as the vulnerable child. Awareness enlightens us sufficiently so we may protect ourselves. Ignorance IS the darkness. There is such danger in this confusion between truth and lies. In time, we will simply fail to see, and how will the blind ever protect themselves?

  • Stimulation

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    The need for stimulation is fine and creating the need for it’s opposite is also fine

    Think of a child constantly seeking stimulation. When a child is stimulated, it’s often because a parent, carer or teacher, is being attentive to them. They’re being entertained, educated and played with. When the child is stimulated in this way the result is happiness, excitement and growth. Ultimately, and for obvious reasons, we can become totally addicted to this.

    On a personal level the later part of my childhood was filled with the kind of stimulation fear brings: chaos

    Interestingly enough I feel that as a result of this chaos my mind often craved calm. The only problem with calm is it’s seeming lack of stimulus. Children that are unfamiliar with calm, only knowing chaos, become very accustomed to the need for stimulation. We can end up conflicted, wondering about the exhaustion we often feel, and why we can’t seem to turn of our need for constant stimulus.

    Wanting is driven by our addiction and craving for stimulation

    It harks back to childhood and the way in which we were stimulated then. The positive of this was experienced by lucky children who where encouraged to find stimulation through creativeness. We can easily recognise those individuals, especially those who continue to be creative all their lives. Caution is advised though, because craving the kind of stimulation creativeness brings, does engender a degree of danger. However, the survivors of this danger, are those who’re able to find balance and a calmness of mind inbetween their creativeness. Sting would be a fine example.

    And so we can experience happiness, growth and contentment if we have a healthy balance between our need for stimulation, and our need for calm. Learning to meditate, in order to find improved mindfulness, is the easiest way to begin finding this kind of balance. The alternative, could well be a lifetime seeking to understand the conflict, caused by our addiction.

  • Aware of Awareness

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    There is no intelligence involved in being aware and so in this respect we’re all over qualified

    It came about, not so long ago, that I moved to a quiet part of the country. I can’t even claim that this was any kind of conscious decision, I just knew that change was needed, as my life had come to an end. My business was concluded; time to run.

    It’s purely an observation to say, when time moves slower in certain parts of the country, or whole countries and cultures for that matter, those who have lived faster lives by comparison will feel over qualified

    So many of us are driven by our intellect and beliefs in success, and when we’re told to slow down and distance ourselves from the methods employed by others, it proves difficult. It’s the city banker or politician who meets the Buddhist monk. Never the twain shall meet. And the question is: how do we create a culture of awareness?

    Perhaps it helps to separate the monk from mindfulness and the guru from awareness

    I feel this is easily achieved. In the same way the over qualified, who move to quieter parts of the country, must learn to stoically compartmentalise, we can separate what we normally associate with meditation, mindfulness and awareness. In exactly the way mindfulness teaches us to become aware of our thoughts, we can question any of those old associations.

    It’s a hindrance for me to think about how others want to run their business. Instead I understand my responsibilities and never step beyond this

    It isn’t me that loses out through my silence. After all, as the wise man said: “those who know don’t talk.” What I know of human nature is, if a job has been done a certain way for a long time, who am I, or any outsider, to question those methods. And so we no longer need the guru or the monk to teach us how to be aware. Those times are gone. Just remove your preconceived ideas, close your eyes, notice the chair beneath your body, your feet on the floor, and pay attention to your breathing – your point of focus. Notice your thoughts, become aware, and bring your mind back to point of focus, once again. Remove your intellect. Emigrate to a quieter country. You are aware.

  • The Restless Horses

    It has everything to do with awareness of mind

    We might think it’s a secret, or what only the few seem to possess, yet there really is something so simple, and so beautiful, about being aware of your state of mind. It’s the difference that makes the difference.

    When we can answer these next questions we start to understand: From moment to moment what am I thinking? What is my mind seeking?

    When meditating, I sense the thoughts within my mind, as being similar, to a paddock full of wild horses. These horses are noisy and restless. They’re stirring up the dust; it’s arid within the confines of the paddock. They want to escape to an imagined lush green land. They want the satisfaction this would bring. They’re sweating and the whites of their eyes are showing. Their ears are back; focusing only on their fear and agitation. They long to escape.

    The similarity is this restless craving to satisfy their need. My mind craves the escape of thought. It wants to escape its confines

    When the mind is constantly stimulated and engaged it’s happily satisfying its addiction. Like the alcoholic taking the drink, or the sugar addict biting into the chocolate bar – satisfied and happy – if just for a moment. The nature of thought is no different. It becomes addicted to movement, thoughts, and stimulation. If never slowed and calmed it remains as the restless horses. The restless horses have become fearful of their confinement.

    The paradox is, our minds, even though busy and stimulated, are no less restricted. As with any addiction, it serves to distract us, from the real issue

    Think of overeating. When we’re eating we’re happily enjoying the pleasure of satisfying a need. We do this to excess, when the pleasure we gain from eating, has become greater than our conscious awareness. When we’re overeating, or eating the wrong things, we’ve lost conscious control. We’re simply indulging in the pleasure and distraction we gain; we’re mindlessly bolting from the paddock to get at the lush green grass. Feelings of hunger have negative associations to food addicts. They’re blindly satisfying a need with no thought as to why.

    Medicine for your mind    

    Firstly we must imagine that we’ve employed the services of a horse whisperer. We invite him into the paddock and watch, mesmerised as he calms the neighing, crazed wild horses. Once calmed, something magical happens. The horse whisperer is able to open the gate and gently lead the horses out. Once there they’re able to eat from the lush pasture all around. There’s no rush, there’s no wildness in their eyes, anymore. Their ears are forward and with a gentle swish of the tail they stop to stare. Once calm, there’s more for all of us to see, and explore.

    Consider for a moment what the horse whisperer has achieved

    How did he calm them? He calmed them by making them aware. He took the wild panic away through showing them what it was to be calm. He moved slowly and gently amongst them. He lay a calming hand on their manes. He showed them how safe it was inside the paddock. Once they understood, there was no rush to escape; no panic, fuelled by one another. He calmed the horses sufficiently for them to become aware.

    Slow now, be aware of the nature, of your mind

    Notice how it craves to escape. Notice. Where is it seeking to escape to? Away from itself perhaps? Away into thoughts of the past, future or fantasy? How is it we imagine these thoughts are richer than now? Is the alcoholic seeking to escape from himself? Is the food addict doing the same? Our minds have learnt to crave this wild escape; this escape from ourselves. We’ve become addicted to how it feels. 

    Why are meditators happier? They’re happier because they’ve regained awareness of themselves in the present moment. Imagine how it would feel to calmly explore the lush green, present-moment-pastures, the craving for mindlessness is keeping us from. Calm and still our minds will be satisfied.

  • Mindfully Unsuffering

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    It is said by some that suffering is created when we’re in a state of wanting or desiring. Is this true?

    It’s certainly the job of all of us to question what we and others believe. We can’t just accept what we’re told as true. We do have a tendency to do this a children. Our critical faculty isn’t sufficiently developed for us to successfully question teachers and parents. However, once we’re grown, it becomes our responsibility to question what we’ve been taught. We rid ourselves of the suffering experienced by others in this way. And this brings me to the belief that desires and wants equal suffering.

    It stands to reason that wanting what we can’t have creates tension but is this tension a form of suffering?

    Think of the word intention. What is your in-tention? Is it your intention to do good in the world? Is it your intention to get what you want? We never get what we want if there’s no intention. Let’s say we eradicated all wants. Would that solve the problems of humanity? How would things have turned out if Edward Jenner hadn’t wanted to cure smallpox? How would things have turned out if he had no intentions? Surely those of us who want to help ease the suffering of mankind are driven by desire and intention.

    Mindfully unsuffering involves the process of questioning the antiquated beliefs of others

    As time moves forward so must we. It is unacceptable to simply continue swallowing the beliefs and philosophies that were established hundreds, if not thousands, of years ago. Suffering is perpetuated when we’re mindless of the negative influence of antiquated beliefs. Suffering is when we stay chained to the growing pains of the past. We must move forward and recognise our responsibility to each other. We must drop our useless beliefs from the past.