Mindful of Others

It’s very easy to forget that mindfulness includes the awareness of how others choose to behave

For some time now I’ve followed a rule that concerns the preservation of my own wellbeing. After all, if I’m going to look after my mind, through the process of mindful awareness, then it naturally follows, that I must be mindful of the behaviour of others towards me.

The rule is simple: If others are unable to respect my time, privacy and feelings, they will fail to gain my attention

This is important because – just as you should – I believe my time, privacy and feelings need protecting. They are important. Important, because how we use these things, determines are general wellbeing. The loss of my attention, as is the loss of anyone’s (that we may have fought hard to gain in the first place), is also something I believe others should be cautious of.

We all have something valuable to teach each other

If you no longer have my attention, it could well mean that your suffering will remain unaltered. We can all change the suffering of each other. Some can make this worse, some can improve our lives. Ceasing watching the news is good example of this. Since I’ve stopped watching or listening to the news my mindset has changed for the better.

Privacy must be respected because this is a direct reflection on how important we believe time to ourselves is. Your time must be respected because time is very precious. Time is all we have. Feelings must be respected because they influence our choices and thinking.

Feelings must be understood if we desire control over our thinking and choices. If others are unable to respect your feelings it reflects on how they understand the importance of their own. If this is lacking, spending time with such people will prove stressful. It’s very easy to dismiss these words as unimportant, yet if you want wellness, always remember to be mindful of others.